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Donate NowActor shares the career lessons that helped him as a caregiver

After playing the character Oswald on the first season of ABC's "The Drew Carey Show," Bader, then 29, was disgruntled artistically and disappointed about not landing the lead role on a different sitcom. Filled with "the hubris of a young man," Bader decided he wanted out.
"Though I liked Drew the second I met him, I was a supporting player on his show," says Bader, now 55, speaking from the Los Angeles home he shares with his wife, 18-year-old son and 16-year-old daughter. "I wasn't the star. I wasn't number one on the call sheet."
The network refused to allow Bader to tear up his contract — which he now recognizes as a gift. The popular series ended up running for nine seasons. Bader calls his desire to exit "bonkers" in retrospect.
"[Leaving 'Drew Carey'] would've been the biggest mistake of my life, let alone my career," says Bader, who's appeared in films such as "Office Space" and "Napoleon Dynamite" and hit TV shows "Veep," "American Housewife" and "Better Things." "Halfway through the second season, this feeling of contentment sort of washed over me. I was just cocky when I was younger. The wisdom that age and experience brings you is realizing the sheer opportunity and luck that you need to get a series, and to seize it and appreciate it immediately."

"It's a trap to look at the person [with Alzheimer's] and think, ‘This is what he or she was at one time, and look at him or her now,'" Bader says. "There's no point in it. It's extremely painful. I was much happier when I just dealt with the situation as it was in the exact moment — to be entirely present — and it's better for them as well."
A former CIA agent, longtime high-ranking diplomat and Senate staff member, William helped uncover U.S. government lies told to escalate the nation's involvement in the Vietnam War. He and his wife, Gretta, a renowned sculptor and artist, had four children.
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"There's a lot of slack you have to cut the guy because he just didn't know what was expected of him," Bader says. "He did the best he could. Once I realized that what he really responded to was politics or history, then I started really paying attention [to what he did for a living] and tried to learn more."
As the disease progressed, William moved to a care community where he had numerous violent episodes. Apparently drawing on his CIA training, he once escaped from the building, injuring workers by using a plunger as a weapon. William eventually moved to a different nursing home that was better prepared for such occurrences.
When visiting his dad, Bader would call upon another lesson from his days on "The Drew Carey Show" that he learned from co-star Ryan Stiles: the improvisational comedy tenet of "Yes, and." A core principle of improv, the method calls for accepting what someone is saying in the scene as the truth and building on it — similar, Bader says, to how dementia experts encourage caregivers to meet people living with Alzheimer's where they are, in their reality. Following "Yes, and" provided Bader an emotional moment with William toward the end of his father's life.

Bader raises awareness as an Alzheimer's Association Celebrity Champion and encourages the use of "Yes, and" as a way to connect as best as possible with a loved one living with the disease.
"If I hadn't had 'Yes, and' in my head, I would've said, 'You know, I'm 50, I know how to shave.' I was grateful for that. It was a lovely moment."
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